The innocent spouse may attempt to do everything so as to regain control of their marriage. They tend to threaten the extramarital partner. Moreover, they tend to engage in extramarital relationship to express anger they feel to their partners.
Lack of affection within a relationship
Affection is the backbone of a relationship. When there is no affection, the relationship is described as dead. The faithful spouse may loose affection to the betrayal one but still in a relationship. This is not healthy at all especially when there are kids. Even if the couple does not divorce, they are forced into new roles where the hurt spouse must become the guardian of the marriage and the offending spouse remains on trial. This changes the couple dynamic into interrogation and defensiveness instead of the mutual edification that comes from kindness and gratitude and service to one another.